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Once upon a time … all stories began that way. At least around
my house. “Tell me a story,” I would beg my mother, or my
grandmother, and they would sit back, with a twinkle in their
eye, often pulling me into their lap, and begin … “Once upon a
time.” [sigh]

Key to the experience, there was no eye contact. I sat beside
them, or on their lap, or they were lying down beside me at
bedtime, or driving the car. It wasn’t an in-your-face
experience. This is part of it. Part of what? Let me tell you a
story first, and then I’ll tell you about telling stories.

So settle back, close your eyes, and let’s begin …

Once upon a time there was a wise and powerful king who had two
vassals. One, Sir Rodrick, was known for being stingy and mean.
The king sent him out on a task. He was to travel the kingdom
and find one good person.

Sir Rodrick returned after many days saying in all the kingdom
he hadn’t been able to find one good person. He said he had
found some who did some things that appeared to be good, but it
was an illusion, and underneath they were all selfish and
wicked. As to a truly good person, there were none.

Next, the king sent Sir Roland out on a mission. Sir Roland was
known for his generosity and love for his people. His task was
to travel the kingdom and find one bad person.

Sir Roland failed as well. He returned many days later saying in
all the kingdom he had not been able to find one bad person. He
had found some who inadvertently went astray, temporarily, but
underneath they were all good and kind. As to a truly bad
person, there were none.

AND THE MORAL OF THE STORY IS …

What do I have to say about this story? Not a thing. Anything I
say would damage it for you. It speaks for itself, and it speaks
to you in its own way, and that’s the way good stories are. The
ones that begin with “once upon a time…”

MYTH, METAPHOR & MAGIC

In a fascinating article called “Myth, Metaphor and Magic,”
Patrice Guillaume explores the power of the Three Ms as related
to the functions of the left and right brain. Our left
hemisphere is analytical, logical and linear; it sees the trees
and not the forest. Our right hemisphere is highly specialized
to manage complex relationships, patterns, configurations and
structures; it cannot see the trees for the forest. The two
hemispheres function well together, and not so well alone.

Here’s how different they are. In research with individuals
who’ve lost the function of one hemisphere or the other, it’s
been discovered that when told to “match’ a picture of a cake,
the left hemisphere will match it functionally - choosing a
spoon or a fork. The right hemisphere will match it according to
appearance - choosing something with the same shape, such as a
hat.

SPLIT BRAIN RESEARCH

In their book “Left Brain Right Brain,” Michael Gazzaniga and
Joseph LeDoux draw the conclusion that the major task of the
left hemisphere (our “verbal self”) is to construct a reality
based on our actual behavior. The left brain doesn’t always know
why we’re doing something. “It is as if the verbal self looks
out and sees what the person is doing, and from that knowledge
it interprets a reality.”

So, somewhat simplified, you could say our behaviors originate
in the right brain, while our left brain is left to justify our
actions. I’m sure you know the feeling of trying to explain
something you did, when you really haven’t a clue!

Now, follow this line of reasoning: IF our behavior originates
in the right brain (and is only explained intellectually in the
left);

AND we want to change someone’s behavior (as a parent, coach or
therapist, for instance) or change our own;

THEN why not save our selves some trouble and talk to the right
brain, not the left brain.

Makes perfect sense. But … if the right brain doesn’t use words,
how do we communicate with it? The answer is …

ANALOGIC COMMUNICATION

Analogic communication includes figurative language, puns,
jokes, metaphor, poetry, art, music, ambiguities and allusions
as well as non-verbal communication, such as posture, gestures,
facial expressions, voice inflection, tone of voice, and the
sequence, rhythm and cadence of the words themselves.

It’s descriptive, the stuff of myth, metaphor, dreams and “once
upon a time” type stories.

In a way that’s hard to explain, because “explaining” is what
the left brain does, information take into the right hemispheres
has far more effect on behavior. It’s the way to “reach”
someone, to “touch” them. Intuitively we know this.

Along with this is the NOT-IN-YOUR-FACE experience. When we get
in someone’s face - literally and figuratively - the guard of
the Other goes up. Down comes the reflector shield, and up come
the defenses. We turn off and tune out. When a story is
delivered, without the intimidation of eye contact, the effect
is different.

DOES IT WORK?

Want someone to get up and help you clean house? Try playing a
march by John Philip Sousa. Go here:
http://www.laurasmidiheaven.com/Patriotic.shtml and play “Stars
and Stripes Forever.” Oh yes! (My son and I used to clean house
to this when he was a preschooler. Not a problem.)

THE MESSAGE

One of the important things about myths and stories is that the
person brings to it his or her own experience. Most of the
fairytales, folklore and parables we’ve passed down through the
ages are dense with meaning we can’t quite put our finger on. It
doesn’t matter; we still ‘get’ them. I’ve never heard someone
say, “What does that mean?” after such a story. More typically
they are lost in thought, off in their own world which has been
deeply touched. Consider for instance the fairytale of “The Poor
Little Match Girl.” I’ve heard this interpreted as a feminist
warning against inaction. The child is alone and freezing to
death, huddled in a corner, with only matches to burn to keep
herself warm.

Eventually she uses them all up and an angel arrives to take her
off to heaven. She has frozen to death. The feminist
interpretation is that it’s a warning against, I guess, staying
at home barefoot and pregnant.

Whatever someone else’s interpretation, here’s how I took it as
a child:

I compared myself to the little girl in the story. I knew I was
well cared for, smart, strong and brave. I felt sorry for the
poor little match girl who must’ve been beautiful (as all
fairytale children are beautiful), but had been left alone in
the world without the resources she needed and I had. I wanted
to help her and people like her and knew that I could and would.

Instead of thinking “why isn’t she doing something?” or “what
could she have done?” or even “I would’ve done this and this,” I
was thinking, “I’ll never be in that position myself, and I know
how to help others who are.”

What some readers interpret as a dire warning against inaction,
I took as inspiration - an affirmation of my resourcefulness,
and a call to action. I was the Big Sister, after all,
accustomed to comforting and caring for my younger siblings. It
was no big deal to me.

I also felt that since I (or some other helpful person) hadn’t
been there to help her, how nice it was to know that when she
died, she was carried off to heaven in the loving arms of an
angel. If not love and comfort in one plane, then love and
comfort in another. What a warm, wonderful world. Yes, I was
that kind of kid, and yes, I remember those reactions clearly,
though they were many decades ago. We bring to the story what we
have to bring to it, and we take away with us what we need to
take away with us.

USE IT

If you are very clever, you can learn to construct stories to
fit your needs in communication. They can be as short as a
metaphor or a simile — “You’re badgering me,” or “You act like
there’s no tomorrow,” or “You were my knight in shining armor,
darling,” or “Sorry, but I’m taking off the red shoes.”

And when you so, use that special tone of voice, the once that
gets into the right brain. Don’t know what it is? Let me teach
you. But don’t mistake this for manipulation. It isn’t like
hypnotism, either. You can’t control another person, nor is it
nice to try, and this isn’t designed to do it. Rather, it pulls
on what’s already there, and what the person is inclined toward
in the first place, or it wouldn’t be happening.

Consider it more like saying something without the barriers and
obstacles your own left-brain puts out in your own path that
fogs your communication. Communication is a two-way street. You
can also use the many myths and stories already out there.
Classic myths have endured for a reason; they talk about human
nature and the challenges we have faced since time immemorial
that transcend time, gender, age and culture. “Cinderella,” for
instance, is very good for little girls who have mothers who
make them do things they don’t want to. Several different
cultures have Cinderella-type stories, because every little girl
has a wicked stepmother, yes?

I, on the other hand, had most of my conflicts with me dad, and
my favorite fairytale was “The Twelve Dancing Princesses.” You
know, the one where the girls get locked up in their rooms every
night by their FATHER, the king, but sneak out to go dancing
[wink wink] and where at the end, the handsome soldier chooses
the ELDEST SISTER to be his bride, not the baby [wink wink].
APPLICATIONS

If you’re a coach, therapist, teacher, manager, or even a
partner in a relationship, consider using myth, metaphor and
magic to communicate. If you’ve been around the block a few
thousand times, you know that in-your-face doesn’t work. In
fact, “You can talk till you’re blue in the face …” Words -
left-brain type words - don’t work. Try something different.

Studying The EQ Foundation Course© (see my website) can help
you, and is taught from a right-brained standpoint.

One last thing before you leave. Take a look at this brain candy
produced by The International Association of Intercultural
Education: www.bigmyth.com . Then ponder it (right brain), don’t
think about it (left brain).

Dear Jane,

I have felt very unhappy for months. There are times when my spirits lift but only briefly. I tend to worry a lot and feel stressed and cannot see any joy in life. I am 30 years old, a female and a lecturer.

I have a lot on my plate work-wise. Yet I have few fixed working hours and some of my work can be done at home or at the library. I am involved in several tasks as well as having written a thesis and waiting for feedback.

I had a bad experience when I left my previous job eight months ago as I couldn’t give them notice. Physically I feel run down and long for free time; yet when I give myself time off I feel bored and unhappy.

I had a bout of pneumonia two years ago and tend to think about the possibility of a recurrence. I’m also worrying about doing too much work and missing out on life — but then I worry about not doing enough!

I am not married and have no-one in my life. I have creative tendencies but they are not made use of in my work at the moment.

M.

Dear M,
Your letter gives a clear insight into the origins of depression. It’s all there!

Trauma. That bout of pneumonia. That bad experience when you left your last job.

Stress and suspense. Waiting for feedback on your thesis. A lot of work, unstructured so you can never feel quite sure that you’ve finished for the day.

Lack of flow. You are not using your creative tendencies. Your work is not bringing you joyful challenge and achievement. Your talents and skills are not being satisfyingly expressed

Lack of people in your life. We all need friends and intimacy, the feeling of being loved and needed.

Worry, worry and worry.

On top of this you may be physically in poor shape. Not enough good quality food, fresh air and exercise.

Every improvement you make, however small, in any of these areas towards the direction of life and fulfilment will make you feel better. A priority is to reduce the amount of time worrying. Pointless worry is corrosive.

(When your brain goes over and over a problem that it can’t sort out, the issue is recycled again in your dreams. The purpose of dreams is to resolve problems but these worries are not the sort of thing which are easily resolved. So you will be dreaming too much, and when you dream too much you wake up in the morning feeling as if you have left your headlights on all night.

Dreaming is the most tiring thing your brain can do. Up to a couple of hours is normal - indeed essential. But when you’re depressed you may dream for up to six hours - which is devastating. You wake with no energy to feel pleasure, interest, curiosity, excitement, motivation and get up and go.)

Worry also causes chronic low-grade stress. So not only is your sleep not refreshing, but many of your body systems are affected by stress hormones. No wonder you worry in case you’re at risk of another bout of pneumonia - because you will not feel completely healthy and you will have some strange physical sensations and aches and pains.

Your mental functioning is also affected by worry, stress, and over-dreaming. You will find that your ability to plan and make decisions, concentrate and remember things are all below par. Your mind does not seem to be working clearly. Instead of seeing things in perspective, you will find you have a tendency to see them in black or white - ‘Everything is awful.’ ‘I am a complete failure.’ ‘Nothing will ever get better.’ ‘It is all my fault.’ Such illogical, over-the-top thoughts result from depression, and of course because they make everything seem so hopeless, they make you even more depressed.

The worry half hour

The way forward is by keeping your worry under control. Set aside a ‘worry half hour’. Whenever worries come into your mind, you acknowledge them and say to yourself ‘I’ll think about this at 6 o’clock’ or whenever. This works better than trying to dismiss or fight against the worries. Work out what you’re afraid of and what is the worst that could happen and what you could do about it. Imagine you’re advising a friend, and treat yourself with the same realism and calm common sense you would use to help someone else.

Dealing with trauma

Depression always imroves when traumas are lifted. I use the powerful Fast Trauma Cure developed by the Human Givens counselling approach. In just one session, people can feel so much lighter and clearer. Otherwise look for an EMDR (NLP) practitioner. EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique, may also help … and has the advantage that you can do it for yourself.

Trauma and worry are two components of depression. Having unmet needs is the third. There are gaping holes in your life which need filling. People. And an outlet for your creativity. Start with finding interest groups, people you could have a cup of coffee with. Start by using your creativity on your environment, so that it’s pleasant and expresses your personality. Such things are not trivial. They are the building blocks of a good life.

Lastly exercise improves people’s mental outlook - even a brisk walk is a lot better than sitting on the couch worrying. And be sure to get good quality fresh food, and take two Omega 3 fatty acid capsules daily with a multi-mineral pill to insure basic physical health to support a better frame of mind.

Good luck.

Jane

Jane Firbank’s site, http://www.secretsofchange.com, has over 100 fascinating and helpful problem letter replies, plus scores of articles and book reviews.

Jane Firbank, BSc (Psych), HG Dip. GHR, is in private practice in London, England where she also regularly writes and consults on psychological matters for the Press, TV and radio.

Did you ever work in a company, doctor’s office, hospital or anywhere that there are more than two people? Did you find out the hard way that when a tongue starts wagging at co-workers your professional life will somehow suffer? Did you ever ask yourself how did this happen? When you only made one remark to Susie and now I am in a hot frying pan ready to be eaten alive.

Many years ago when I was younger and stupider I was working in a large hospital billing office. I liked my job and interacted with all the employees in my department. I worked with this woman and we had a great working relationship. My job was to make her job easier and it worked.

Then one day I was talking to another employee and her name came up. I made one statement about this woman and believe me I wish I could take it back.

At the time I was speaking to my co-worker and I made this statement I did not think I had said anything out of the ordinary. But by the time it had gone around the entire department and back to her I had an enemy for life.

To be perfectly honest I do not know what she thought I said because she never told me. I was even called into the manager’s office and asked what I had said to make the woman so upset.

I truthfully told her I did not know. I told her what I had said to the other woman and I do not know what the out come was. The bottom line is I never knew what made my co-worker so mad, she would never tell me.

It made for a very unpleasant working situation. So I strongly suggest even though you have been told over and over again if you do not want your private life hung on a clothes line at work for all to see, keep your mouth shut.

Always be very careful who you talk to at work, home or wherever. If you know from past experience that you can trust this person, speak freely but if you do not know this person, speak cautiously.

I sure learned that lesson the hard way. I suppose we all learn it the same way. I bet you could tell me stories about your work place or even in your personal life where one thing is said, passed on from person to person like a spreading fire and the next thing you know – it is the complete opposite of whatever was said in the first place.

I hope you enjoyed my article. I hope you read my other articles. I would love to hear from you. Just leave a comment on this article.

Copyright 2006 Linda Meckler

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Then we have a mysterious, magical Blue Vase where Uncle Charlie the villain is trapped. He wants out of the Blue Vase and exchange he will tell Christy and Brad where Pirates’ Treasure is Hidden.

Take a walk with Christy and Brad down a dark hall hunting for Pirates’ Treasure. You will think were you there right there with them.

Love, Family Values and Charity burst off the pages.

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Bipolar disorder, also known as manic-depressive illness, is a brain disorder that causes unusual shifts in a person’s mood, energy, and ability to function. Different from the normal ups and downs that everyone goes through, the symptoms of bipolar disorder are severe. They can result in damaged relationships, poor job or school performance, and even suicide. But there is good news: bipolar disorder can be treated, and people with this illness can lead full and productive lives.

More than 2 million American adults, or about 1 percent of the population age 18 and older in any given year, have bipolar disorder. Bipolar disorder typically develops in late adolescence or early adulthood. However, some people have their first symptoms during childhood, and some develop them late in life. It is often not recognized as an illness, and people may suffer for years before it is properly diagnosed and treated. Like diabetes or heart disease, bipolar disorder is a long-term illness that must be carefully managed throughout a person’s life.

“Manic-depression distorts moods and thoughts, incites dreadful behaviors, destroys the basis of rational thought, and too often erodes the desire and will to live. It is an illness that is biological in its origins, yet one that feels psychological in the experience of it; an illness that is unique in conferring advantage and pleasure, yet one that brings in its wake almost unendurable suffering and, not infrequently, suicide.”

There are many symptoms of bipolar that one should be mindful to look at if they feel they may be suffering from a mental health illness.

To read the rest of this article please visit our website at HelpingDepression.com. Here you will also find helpful articles on mental health disorders that affect millions of people today.

Fear of the unknown is a very universal fear. Fear of the unknown hospital is a very universal fear among the mentally ill. Actually, many people have a fear of hospitals even if they are not mentally ill. Even without a harrowing experience, most people don’t view the hospital as somewhere they want to visit, unless they’re there to visit another patient. Add to that the horror stories of generations gone by and the imagination of Hollywood and it’s amazing that the psychiatric hospitals have any voluntary patients at all to treat.

Fortunately, times have changed and so have most hospital environments. Sure, a few archaic practices still exist, as do a few unenlightened doctors, but the overall philosophy of confining patients to a hospital for years, or even a lifetime, has evolved into a philosophy of helping patients become productive members of society. The concept of transforming the mentally ill into productive, functioning members of society is not a new one but actual implementation really only began in the 1960’s. Today, with the limits most insurance companies impose, treatment is often limited to a few weeks of in-patient hospitalization per year. Hospital staff and the psychiatrists must medicate, educate and reintegrate patients back into the community in the quickest manner possible.

Now, the hospital itself is usually not the root of our fear. Who’s afraid of four walls, some worn out furniture, old magazines and games, maybe a television, a community phone and a counter that the staff gathers behind? For me, the fear was being confined to a place and not being allowed to leave when I was ready. The locked doors and windows can easily bring on a panic attack in even the calmest of sane folks, no less the mentally ill. For some, the fear of being away from family and friends makes the hair on the back of their necks stand up. For others it’s the reaction of family, friends or even co-workers that makes them nauseous. Some fear the loss of a job. Some fear the social stigma that still exists in the smallest of minds in cities and towns across the nation. Whatever the fear is, it will not subside until it is confronted head on and beaten into oblivion with the facts.

Each hospital has its own unique procedures and funny rules, but some guidelines seem to be consistent from place to place. Even though I’ve only been hospitalized three times, you hear all the stories about other places from the patients who are comparing notes. The following is a list of things that I have seen firsthand and have heard others mention as well.

* Absolutely no “Sharps” except the few things allowed which remain locked up and can be checked out during an appointed time. “Sharps” are: razor, toothbrush, toothpaste, mouthwash, shampoo, comb, brush, blow dryer, curling iron (if allowed), soap, make up, lotion, glasses, contact solution, etc. Perfume, after-shave, scissors, tweezers, etc. are not allowed. If the substance abuse program is part of the unit, some facilities will not allow any products with alcohol.

* Clothing is a whole issue in itself. Some only allow a certain number of pairs of underwear and socks. They require that you wear a bra if you are a woman, but some will not allow the under wire type (unless you are like me and they don’t make my size without an under wire). You must have sleeping attire that consists of a top and bottoms. You are usually not allowed in the common areas in your sleeping attire. By the way, no shorts or sweats with a draw string. I’ve heard some places don’t allow shoelaces either. No ripped or holey clothing either.

* The first day and night you are usually on what is referred to as “SPs” (Suicide Precaution). This means that someone must check on your whereabouts every ten to fifteen minutes to make sure you aren’t trying to end your life prematurely. They do this while you are trying to sleep too, which usually wakes you since you are too scared to get any decent sleep the first night. As long as you remain on SPs, you cannot check out your sharps alone. One of the staff must be with you while you are brushing your teeth, taking your shower and doing your hair. Facilities that have a separate cafeteria area will keep you confined to the unit for meals as well. The psychiatrist takes you off SPs as soon as they are sure you won’t be stealing anyone’s shoelaces to inflict bodily harm on yourself.

* Smoking is a considerable issue for some patients. Some facilities do not allow smoking and some have a designated enclosed area. Even though I’m not a smoker, I enjoyed being able to go outside into the little enclosed courtyard and see the sunshine or the stars and hear the birds chirping. Plus, the smokers always had all the scuttlebutt from the unit. It was also interesting to hear the ravings of the patients who were experiencing psychosis and they always seemed to come outside and share their latest vision or message from God.

* The community phone is always an interesting situation. One unit I was on had two phones but that seems to be rare. Usually there is a time limit on phone calls and one person who always seems to abuse it. The phones usually allow calls in as well as out. During the day when there is therapy or classes being conducted the phone will most likely be taken off the hook. And just so you know, the staff does not take messages!

* Speaking of therapy and education…it seems to vary tremendously from unit to unit and from facility to facility. The first hospital I was in provided only the very basic information. It was so elementary that a 7-year-old would have been a capable instructor. The second hospital I was in about two years later was far more advanced with their program. They had numerous therapists, verses only one like the first facility. They taught useful things like coping skills and effective anger management. They promoted group discussion, unlike the first hospital that merely lectured to you until you nodded off from the drone of their voice.

* Eat, drink, eat some more and be merry! That seems to be an overall philosophy among the psychiatric community in general. If they’re mentally ill give them all the food they can eat and don’t be chintzy on the drinks (non-alcoholic, of course). The units I’ve been on have always had really good food as well, so you wanted to eat. One unit had a great salad bar. They both had a refrigerator that was stocked with juice, milk, chocolate milk, jello, pudding, fruit and some sandwiches. There was also a microwave and plenty of popcorn and instant soup. They also stocked those cereals that come in their own bowl. So, not only do most of the meds make you hungry, they supplied enough sustenance to outgrow your clothes while you were there. They also keep track of how much you eat, although you won’t see them doing it openly. I think it’s kept under wraps for the most part, although I cannot imagine why.

* On to the issue of medication. Most of your conflicts seem to be centered in this area. There are patients who refuse to take the prescribed meds. You have the right to do this, although I personally don’t suggest it if you want to get better and get out.

Overall, I felt like I was at camp. I’ve been somewhat lucky in the fact that all of my hospitalizations were positive experiences. I went in wacky and came out with a corrected medicine regime and a renewed attitude towards life. Of course, I’ve never gone in against my will and I’ve always been one to follow the rules. Each patient has a choice about the attitude they adopt when it comes to being hospitalized. You can choose to learn something during the course of treatment or you can close yourself off to anything positive, convinced that you won’t get better. I realize it’s tough to be positive sometimes, especially during an episode of depression, and some people are natural pessimists. The course of recovery is up to us as well. There isn’t a cure for mental illness yet.

Maybe someday soon there will be a cure or at least a more exact method of prescribing medications. Until then, if you have a mental illness you owe it to yourself to fight, to the best of your ability, to increase your control over your disability. This means finding a competent psychiatrist with knowledge of your illness to treat you and administer your medications. It means going to therapy and changing your flawed ideas of life and its many challenges. It means reading, investigating, asking questions, building a strong support network, making changes, taking courses, talking and yes, it means enduring a stay at the hospital, if that’s what it takes.

Terry J. Coyier is a 37-year-old college student studying for an Associates of Applied Sciences degree. She is also a freelance writer who writes about bipolar disorder and other mental illnesses. Terry was diagnosed with bipolar ten years ago. She lives with her son in the Dallas/Ft. Worth Metroplex. Terry is an author on http://www.Writing.Com/ which is a site for Writers and her personal portfolio can be viewed here.

Visualization is not idle wishing or daydreaming. It is a practical method to discover and achieve all you want from life. Visualization trains your mind to focus on what you truly want, and helps in marshalling all your available resources, which may be used for the accomplishment of your objective.

This article explores and explains the Power of Visualization and suggests a practical technique to overcome anger and reinforces the belief and confidence in us that any problem of any size or magnitude can be conquered.

We all get angry sometimes due to something or the other. Most of the time we become victims of our own anger. Our anger leads us to say or do something that we repent later. It causes harm to us as well as to others to whom we direct our anger.

The following visual sequence will not only control your anger, but also motivate you to turn things around.

Picture your anger as a ball of fire next time when you are angry. The angrier you are, the bigger is the ball of fire. It can be as big as football or even the size of a mountain. Picture the ball of fire as big as your anger.

Notice the distance of the ball of fire from you. If it is too closer to you, put it away at a safer distance. Now, inspect the ball of fire carefully. Do you see the flames dancing around it? What is the color of the flame? Do you feel the heat of your anger? Does it make you sweat?

Anger makes us feel helpless over a situation. You feel helpless because all your power becomes centered around your anger. You feel it like a fiery lump, burning you head and heart. The idea is to picture this lump, and take back the power that it has taken from you.

Command the ball of fire to return back all the power it has taken from you. If you get no response, then demand from it. You might see a ball of pure gold smaller than the ball of fire emerge from the flames. Command it to go to either your head or your heart.

Do you feel the power in your heart? Do you feel the power return back to your head? Good! Sometimes, just separating the power from your anger makes the flames of anger die.

But, if there is any flame left in the ball of fire, roll it out mentally to a large reservoir of water. It may take a lake. Or it might even be an ocean.

Now, push the angry ball of fire into the water. Do you hear the hiss of the ball of fire when it meets water? See the white cloud of steam that arises. Slowly, the hissing sound subsides. The steam disappears. The angry ball of fire disappears completely. You have drowned your anger. And you have done it without harming yourself or others.

On the other hand, you have taken the power away from your anger and kept it with you. You are now POWERFUL.

In fact you are VERY VERY POWERFUL. Use your Power to your advantage.

Pradeep Aggarwal is a renowned Hypnosis & NLP guru with career spanning two and half decades He is also a much sought after speaker and peak performance consultant for Sport Teams and organizations. Visit Hypnosis Global for free 6 part mini course to learn Self Hypnosis and Personal Transformation.